Dear Neverdyed:

“if he ever reaches out again.. I may simply ignore him, which is cold and probably selfish”- you have the option of sending him a message, letting him know that if he reaches out to you in the future, you will not answer him so to protect yourself, and that you are letting him know of this because you don’t want him to be surprised or upset if he reaches out to you and you don’t answer. Then wish him well. There is no coldness or selfishness in this option.

“I seem to have abandonment issues, but I can’t recall if it stems from my childhood”- if you want, and only if you want to, you are welcome to share with me about your childhood experience.

anita