Dear Jason:

I understand now that you didn’t spend a lot of time communicating with her. I also understand that you are very curious regarding the complexity of some abusive relationships, regarding there not being clear and visible indications of abuse.

As to your question: no, I don’t belong to a camp saying “if she wants to leave she would just go”. I think that it is possible that he abuses her, it is possible that she abuses him,  it is possible that they abuse each other, and it is possible that neither one abuses the other. I don’t know their reality and neither do you. Doesn’t read to me that they have a healthy relationship though.

anita