Dear Neverdyed:

No, I don’t mind if you don’t take my advice, but what is suggested to you was not advice but an option that you have. It makes sense to me that you won’t take on that option if it makes you feel humiliated.

You mention abandonment (“Still don’t know when I felt being abandoned or worried about it”). I am lost, I don’t remember suggesting to you that you were abandoned. In my post before last I wrote that lots of children hide their true self from their parents “so to not get rejected by the parent”. I mentioned rejection, not abandonment.

Do you feel that you were rejected by any of your parents, or feared that you will be rejected, maybe by your mother when she was aggressive (“Just can’t stand her aggressive attitude during a fight”), or by your father’s “silent but passive aggressive way”?

anita