Dear Felix:

“If the person is not too sociable, I really don’t know what to talk with him/ her.. I have difficulty to look them in the eye.. especially if it’s a girl. As I can’t talk about her appearance right”-

Practice looking people in the eye- do it for a short time, here and there. Be patient, practice and after a few weeks of practicing, you will notice that it got easier.

To appear friendly, as you look people in the eye, smile a bit, a small smile.

When you want to say something to someone, but you don’t know what to say, ask him/ her: how are you today? It’s hot outside, isn’t it? Or you can say: it sure is hot outside, it’s nice to be inside in a hot day like this.  It is not a good idea  to talk to a girl about her physical appearance; better not talk to anyone you don’t know very well about their physical appearance- it might make them uncomfortable.

It’s better to make “small talk” with people you don’t know, a common small talk topic is the weather. Non- small topics (to not talk about with people you don’t know): politics, religion, disease and death, bathroom habits.. anything that disgusts or embarrasses most people

anita