Dear Matthew:

You are welcome.

“I may give opposing answers sometimes, but that doesnt mean I’m ever lying to you”- it’s good to know but it doesn’t resolve my problem regarding asking you questions: I am not motivated to ask you questions because I don’t trust that I will receive answers close enough to the truth.

“the truth is I do feel very confused regarding many things”- ask me questions, if you want to, maybe I will be able to clarify some things for you.

You wrote that you “feel the exact same way” as I described, which was (what I wrote to you): “the image of myself that I saw in the mirror was a shameful, bad, disgusting, unworthy, unlovable, guilty person”. You wrote that you want to “replace the guilt and unworthiness with confidence”, but you don’t know how to do that.

You shared that you used to feel guilty about experiencing sexual pleasure (or any kind of pleasure, I am not sure) for about 10 years, feeling “so guilty.. weak and dirty for it”. Two years ago, you got over this but you “still feel guilty and weak sometimes.. when I’m down emotionally”.

-so, you “managed to get over it” much of the time, but not all  of the time, is what I figure you meant by getting-over-it.

anita

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