Hi Carol,

“He’s told me people don’t have these conversations until they’ve been together a few years.” A 34 year old woman who sees children in her future can’t wait a few years before having these conversations. He should know this. Everyone knows this.

“He feels he has commitment issues.” A lot of people, both men and women, have commitment issues. Sometimes that means that they’re afraid that after they commit to someone, the “right one” will come along. You don’t want a guy who wants you because “he doesn’t want to die alone”; you want a guy who wants you because you’re the right one! If he needs therapy to figure out that you’re the right one, let him get therapy, but don’t wait around.

One idea is to consider freezing eggs to take the pressure off you with regards to those precious children who are in your future.

B