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@anita To be honest yes, he did not say everything in a complete manner but they match and are true, imagine all their conversations history is in his backup, what I did notice is that she seems like a nice girl, he told me that at some time but then she was divaish and love to flirt with every men ( perhaps it’s in her nature) but the way she spoke and the things she said she seems nice ( just by what I saw).
This woman was indeed going through a rough time at that moment they began to speak more frequently and more upclose she had break up with her boyfriend and then found out he had cheated on her ( her boyfriend was going out with another women at the same time with her) so she was heartbroken at that moment and my bf was insistently trying to prove her that he was a good man and would make her happy.
He seemed all over the place for her and she could tell ( I saw this by the way she responded to him) she tells him :” how can you love me if you don’t even know me) he kept saying that he was falling so deep in love with her and that he loved her ( he did this same thing with me in the second month of dating) and I told him this couldn’t be it was to soon.
This sounds like limerance, euphoria, infatuation etc but it’s definitely not normal.
He was literally telling her the craziest things ( which screamed my self esteem is so low!) he said your highness milady I will be at your ankles, I love your legs, I want to kiss you and hug you all night blah blah ( this is how wrote to her everyday they chatted).
A question anita, does limerance makes you exaggerate attributes or qualities ? It just intrigues me so much that he insists that this woman ( even in the messages he tells her) has a super sexy body, and it’s funny cause she tells him that she does not see herself voluptuous, that she is thin. And he acts like if she had a curvy body when she obviously doesn’t