Dear anita,

Thank you for your reply. I appreciate  your time.

Well, I believe it has been a long journey with many lessons learned. Something I learned recently came from my manager at my workplace. He mentioned “There will always be inadequacies in the people around us. They might change/improve in time according to how much each individual grows or doesn’t grow as a person. But it is up to us to learn and understand those inadequacies and work with each individual’s strengths without highlighting their faults. At the same time, we need to understand that there are certain things/traits that may never change about a person. It is also up to us to understand what those characteristics are and proceed accordingly and cautiously so that we do not fall into an unpleasant situation”

I took this advice very much to heart. I believe the case with my mother is the same. All things said and done, I can say for sure is that over the years, there has been significant growth. She is much calmer and less prone to outbursts now and I in turn (hopefully!), seem to have grown more patient, empathetic and understanding as a person. However there are certain traits that may never change. So here, it is up to me to proceed without provoking certain reactions that by now, I know through experience, are reactions that are predictable.

It may not have been the most ideal lifetime experience, but I believe it is up to me to make the best of it 🙂

If you have more comments to make, please do share if and whenever it is convenient to you. I do enjoy reflective discussion myself and your responses are thought provoking and insightful to me.

Warm regards,

MonaD