Dear MonaD:

The reason I thought that your mother probably didn’t love your father, way before he left the home, is because I understood from how she has been treating her own two daughters- that she is not a loving person.

It was my understanding yesterday that your mother did not become an unloving person because and as a result  of your father leaving the home. I think she was an unloving wife for a long time before he left. It is possible that she was abusive to him as well, before he left, verbally abusive, similar to how she was verbally abusive to her two daughters, particularly to you.

Is your sister living with your mother and how is she functioning in life?

anita