@Sammy – sorry I did not get a notification. What’s bothering you?

I think you are so focused on getting to the finishing line asap, but let me tell you all of these trials and setbacks are normal, try to heed sage advice and you will get there faster with less pain but in the end, what happens is down to you. Yes, you have the control, even if it feels like you are spiraling out of control, it takes a small adjustment in that mind, to steer you back from the edge. Letting emotions flow so you can set goals and make more decisions. See the relationship as a rehearsal it was just preparing you for a better and stronger one, so persevere despite the mishaps.

Are you using a buddy or are @Shelbyville and I your buddies? I detect sarcasm or at least I hope in this comment;

” I now wait until midday to drink…can I toast to that? Progress?” You can toast to any progress with a pint of milk or orange juice. 

It can feel incredibly isolating and lonely after a break-up, we become tired of friends and family repeating the same realistic advice which is always correct but never quite registers because we are wanting to hear that hope, the answers to make us feel better, I am happy to provide conversation to at least make that loneliness less overwhelming and ease up on the advice on the basis you on your side undergo the work to resolve the issues; letting go, self-worth and drinking, Work on these and before you know it that loving long term relationship you desire will happen.

I’ll try not to take offense to your sexist digs :P, after all, you are hurting, us men can be “Thirsty” but not all of us are after primarily sex, we want cuddles and companionship too!