Dear Anita:

Thank for again for your replies. Yes that does make sense. What you say about the rejection from my mother. Do you recommend I try therapy? Is opening to people something I can learn to do so I do not feel like I will spend the rest of my life alone?

I will let you know what I decide to do about “A”. Part of me just wants to see her because I gave given so many years of my life to whatever this relationship is. I know that I am emotionally unhealthy but I am worried that I will always be left wondering things about her if I walk away without spending some time with her.  I mean more than the night we spent together when she was grieving her father.

I do not know what I will do but I will let you know what transpires.

Joe