Dear jeniffer:

Here is my advice, input and a question:

1) No more watching any kind of porn (“Recently it all started when I was watching lesbian porn”).

2) No longer googling and reading online about anything sexual, including sexual orientation (“I looked at many reddit posts about girls being lesbians in denial.. I read many forums about bisexuality and reading them made my anxiety go through the roof”).

3) You wrote that your family may not help you see a therapist, but they may agree that you see a medical doctor regarding your anxiety (which is the driving force behind your obsession with sexual orientation).

4) “I’m currently in a relationship with a guy and everything is going so great between us.. He just makes me so happy and I never want to lose him”- it is possible that before your obsession with sexual orientation, you were anxious about losing your boyfriend, and that anxiety started this current obsession.

5) “I want everything to go back to normal when everything was good and I was so happy… I want this feeling to go away and never come back again”- before this obsession, I imagine that you were very happy at times, being in love with the guy in your life. But if you look back to the time before your current obsession, do you see that you were not always happy, or calm, that you were anxious about other things?

anita