Samuel,

Don’t criticize yourself.  Work towards a positive self image.  List all the good things about yourself and any good things others have said about you.  Spend two or three weeks really absorbing the special qualities you possess.  There is no-one else like you.  Any time you need to make a major decision on the way forward, do some brainstorming.  Divide a sheet of paper into two columns – For Decision – Against Decision.  It usually  becomes quite clear which route to take.  It may not be perfect but sometimes any decision is better than no decision.

Letting go could have two interpretations.  1)  Letting go of past hurts and relationships  2)  Letting go of tensions and learning to relax, tensions meaning muscular tensions.  Such tensions are frequently a result of negative thought patterns manifesting in the body.

Problems and situations are always helped by positive thinking.  Don’t focus on the problems, focus on the solutions.  Positive action will help alleviate depression.  None of us has a crystal ball that can predict the future.  Sometimes, you just have to ‘go for it’.  Things rarely work out as we think they will.  It won’t necessarily be better or worse, it will just be different.

80% of what we worry about doesn’t happen, so what is the point of worrying when all it does is create tensions in the head, neck and shoulder area.  You can apply the ‘STOP’ technique.  Whenever you catch yourself with a thought that isn’t going to benefit you say ‘STOP’.  Literally stop yourself from thinking negatively.

Finally, don’t dwell on the past or be overly concerned about the future.  Live in the NOW.  Be grateful for all that you have in your life today.  Think of ten things and give thanks each and every night as you settle down to sleep e.g. a toothbrush, a pair of shoes, a roof over your head, a comfortable bed and so on.

Keep the good memories.  Always.

Best Wishes

Peggy