Hi Amelia,

I completely empathize with you because I have had a very similar relationship wherein my now ex-partner would get angry, irritated, not answer calls, snap at me at the smallest of things and blame me in turn for not understanding/supporting/causing his anger when I expressed my displeasure.

Strictly speaking only from my experience of 5 years with my ex-partner, such treatment only worsens with time and doesn’t get better. The angry out-bursts, snapping, avoiding calls, ignoring issues become more frequent and intensive as the relation progresses. In your case, if he uses you as his punching bag as early as 9 months into the relation, then I fear that marrying wouldn’t be a good choice.

I’m still recovering from the relationship but trust me, if you choose to separate, it will feel better with time and will lend your life a lot of peace and stability which I feel is not possible while one is in such relationships.

Lots of Love,

Jenny