Dear Anita,

Thank you! for getting back to me. Yes we have been keeping peace in the house as we now we have to for our children. We are sleeping separate from each other I am seeing a licensed therapist. That has help a lot and has keep me calm in so many different ways. Reading different things has also help me out. At one point we talk about  is separation, and he gets his own place. I ask him to wait for I could figure out our finances and he went a head a sign a lease to his new place and it a year lease so he is lock into that. That concern me because he didn’t even seem like it matter or cared who he hurt in the long run. I feel like he keeps putting his own feeling out there and doesn’t care about his family. He makes irrational decisions without even thinking about what he is doing this is been going on for a long time. And if it and if it falls apart I am left to pick up the pieces and fix the family. So all the burden falls upon me and I don’t know how much more I can take. Is there any advice you could give me.

Sincerely sasseyholmes