It is nice to read you are still as insightful as ever. That person meant something to you so it’s normal to feel confused when running into one another. Try to remind yourself why you broke up, did that person add something to your life that is worthwhile keeping some contact ?
I’m of the opinion friendship after dating is very difficult even if there was an amicable break up. From experience if you loved or had strong feelings it is difficult and I couldn’t remain friends with my ex. I normally had to go NC to move on.
I also believe M/F who find each other attractive on any level can not be friends, sex always gets in the way. I don’t know if that’s applicable to F/F. It would be nice to stay friends or acquaintances with some people but it’s not always possible.
@Shelbyville is quiet and that usually means things are going well or she’s having a good weekend (I hope you are! do let us know how you are so we don’t worry!!) I think she is nc with ex but still friends with her guy friend she dated so in theory there must be no attraction and feelings there hence easier for her? She will probably be able to give you a better idea of how and if it’s worth the energy to remain friends.
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