Dear Lula:

You are welcome. You wrote that what you had with him was a “two-way sexting.. both of us wanted this to happen”, that you and him did experience romantic feelings for each other while sexting, and that he knew that you were romantically involved in the sexting. You wrote that he made a separation, in his mind, between the feeling of being in love and having a future, and romantic feeling for a friend, with no future.

I think I understand now: the separation that he made is similar to a separation that many men make (and some women too): men that say they love their wives but have sex with other women. They claim that what they have with other women is just sex, and what they have with their wives is love, and that having sex with other women does not hurt their love for their wives.

I guess that’s how your “best friend” managed to have a girlfriend, and .. you, at the same time.

anita