Hi Anita,

I do see what you mean about keeping him out of her life so that he cannot hurt her more than she is hurting now.  I do want her to talk with her therapist to discuss what she wants.  Closure can be very therapeutic.

My therapist thought it best to ask bf what he’s working on in his therapy.  Let him tell me what has been discussed with his therapist.  In other words, don’t give him an answer to build upon.

Today was a bit of a downer for me.  I’m exhausted mentally.  I’m in front of the fireplace doing some online holiday shopping.  I am so not into going into the store with too many people and COVID, plus all the holiday fanfare in the stores just gets me down.  I get what I need and leave.

Now with the COVID numbers so high in the hospital, I feel like I need to come directly home after work and shower.  No stops along with way, which works in my favor.

I do miss him and so wish he didn’t screw everything up.  But, what’s done is done.  No going back.

Katie