Dear Suomilainen:

You are welcome. He was lying then when he told you that he was celibate/ in retirement for 13 years before he met you because he also told you that he had a sexual affair with a woman a year or two before he met you (the math doesn’t add up).

In addition, I doubt that he believes that his wife’s spirit wants him to be with you any more than she wanted him to be with a  married woman 20 years his junior.

You wrote: “He’s introduced me to a couple of his family members including his parents so I guess that’s a good sign?”- will you describe that introduction to me: what did he say to whom, what did they say to him/ you?

Also, I didn’t understand the incident when he called you selfish, what was the reason he stated for accusing you of being selfish?

anita