Hi Anita!

Yes, you are right. The math doesn’t add up. There are a lot of things that don’t add up with his stories. There are many more.

The introductions were very brief. I’ve only talked to his mother once, who has dementia, and his father once, and very briefly his 2 brothers all who live together in the same house. They are poor. Also, his sister just made a quick appearance and was hesitant to show her face at first. I think he introduced me as his girlfriend. He says his family always asks about me but I’ve never spoken to them since (about a month ago).

He knows my financial situation and knows my ex’s and son’s names. He never asks about my life really other than once where he asked if I received a letter from my ex’s lawyer. I confronted him about not asking about me and he said he wants to learn about me but he just doesn’t have to know it all to know that I am a good person with a good heart (seriously?). His answers are always seem rehearsed.

He called me selfish because on the anniversary of his wife’s death, he was to call me and he didn’t until I went on the game and spoke to one of his friends. Not 10 minutes afterwards, he called saying “at least I called”. Ok maybe that’s selfish but I thought that since he said I was so important to him and his vision.

I’ve done a background check and found nothing. I’ve become a little paranoid and called the police once to inquire about sexploitation because I’m afraid he may leak the intimate photos, etc. I’m in Canada, he is in the US. I’ve never done anything like this before so I’m overly cautious.