That makes a lot of sense Anita. I was also meaning something like that, that I had the choice to choose my reaction. Instead of engaging and taking the insults when they began, I could have disengaged and left, if only I had more self-esteem.

Related to this, there is something Anita that almost everyone has been telling me ever since the breakup. I don’t know how far is that true and I think instead of making a new thread, I’ll put it here. For reference, when I say relationships below, it doesn’t only mean romantic ones but relations in general.
So far in life, I’ve been the ‘go all in into relationships’, ‘ultimately relations are the most important things in life’ kind of a girl. My career, hobbies, social life has always come after my relationships. I literally begin revolve my world around my family and partner and loved ones, specially in a relationship, I can feel everything else becoming secondary and the man being a constant thought at the back of my head no matter what I do.

In the last one year, my family and friends have said things like these- ‘Never make a man your entire world’, don’t lose yourself in relationships, Jenny you stop having an interesting life outside of your partner, one shouldn’t make any person their whole life, ‘let a man pursue you in life, always’,  ‘relations are only a part of life and not life’, ‘relations are 1%, the rest 99% has to be you and your own growth’, the most classic was my friend saying ‘a girl should always marry a man who loves her more than she loves him’, ‘if you’re always available for anyone, they don’t value you’, ‘Jenny you give too much importance to your loved ones’ etc etc on the same lines.
are these statements true, Anita? Should relationships, your family, your partner not be the most important thing in your life?