Dear Danny:

You are welcome and thank you for your kind words.

“I wasn’t the cool guy I always am. I became somewhat infatuated with her and I’m sure it showed”- I think that a man showing his infatuation with a woman is a very attractive thing, I can’t think of anything more attractive. Like I wrote to you earlier, a love relationship should be about..  love, not about appearances, games and power.

“They know they have you if they want to, and their attraction for you drops”- that’s true for men and women who want to have/ own/ possess another. It is not true for those who want a fair, respectful give-and-take love relationship where no one owns or possesses the other person.

“if she was off seeing someone else and decided to come back to me at some point, I think I’d feel some pretty strong resentment for both her and whoever she was with. In fact the idea gives me those feelings now”- I guess she is no longer an option.

“I’m not letting it mess with my goals and career and aspirations and dreams”- good to read this. One of your dreams is a love relationship, I figure (?)

anita