Dear Anita,

To clear your doubts my mum isnt having romantic feelings towards this boy. She lost her husband two years ago and isnt quite well health wise. Her concern is for me to settle down in life as I’ve got no family left except for her. So she seems this boy is really suitable for me, hence she is pushing me to be with him. As much as I like this boy and have feelings for him, I’m not sure if I can be happy with him. Yes, the physical attraction is there but other than that he barely calls me or reply my texts. He would take hours to reply my texts. He lives only about 3 km from my house which isnt far. But he only meets me two weeks once or three weeks once. According to him, he is very busy and has no time (I guess no time for me).

My mum does not know about us making out. I just confessed to her that I have feelings for this boy and she is urging me to go further. But I am just putting things on hold for the moment. And we only make out in the car. It only has happened roughly about 6 times. And yes I know the other girl involved. I met her through him. They are friends but she is working in another country.

I’m not sure if this boy is actually serious with me or what he wants. I want to confront him but I am unsure how to do it or what to ask.