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    Bobz
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    Dear Anita,

    To clear your doubts my mum isnt having romantic feelings towards this boy. She lost her husband two years ago and isnt quite well health wise. Her concern is for me to settle down in life as I’ve got no family left except for her. So she seems this boy is really suitable for me, hence she is pushing me to be with him. As much as I like this boy and have feelings for him, I’m not sure if I can be happy with him. Yes, the physical attraction is there but other than that he barely calls me or reply my texts. He would take hours to reply my texts. He lives only about 3 km from my house which isnt far. But he only meets me two weeks once or three weeks once. According to him, he is very busy and has no time (I guess no time for me).

    My mum does not know about us making out. I just confessed to her that I have feelings for this boy and she is urging me to go further. But I am just putting things on hold for the moment. And we only make out in the car. It only has happened roughly about 6 times. And yes I know the other girl involved. I met her through him. They are friends but she is working in another country.

    I’m not sure if this boy is actually serious with me or what he wants. I want to confront him but I am unsure how to do it or what to ask.

     

    #374843
    Bobz
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    Dear Anita,

    Alright. His relationship with my mum. He adores my mum. They are close. Whenever he visits me, the conversation will be mostly be between my mum and him and I’ve got to wait for my turn to talk. They get along very very well. And they love each other very very much as mother and son. He is still communicating with my mum. But not with me.

    I’m not sure what exactly the situation is.

    #374832
    Bobz
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    Dear Anita,

    Thank you for your reply. I did ask him if we were friends with benefit and he denied it. He said he does not see me that way. I just wonder if he just used me to his advantage to get benefits. At the same time I’m in denial as he is really close with my mum and if he screws things up he would screw his relationship with my mum too.

    I don’t understand how someone can be so close yet be like this. If it was just a normal friendship and if he took advantage of the situation I would be fine I guess. But being so close by knowing each other’s family and his mum being friends with my mum, I wonder how can someone do this.

    Its like I cannot accept the situation. And also there is no closure in why he stopped talking to me all of a sudden. Just because I questioned him about the other girl? I’m not too sure if that’s the reason and I don’t know how to find.

     

     

     

     

     

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