Dear Lily:

You are welcome. “I still would like to not see things in a very black and white way of good person and bad person”- I was clear in suggesting that your father is not a bad person in each and every context. In the context of parenting/ abusing you, he was a bad  person. He inflicted on you decades of suffering so far. A person who inflicts so much suffering on an innocent girl is a bad person, in that specific context.

“I know that he was not the best at parenting”- why use such euphemism, “not the best”- when he was close to being the worst to you.

At this point, I have shared with you all of my understanding of your childhood, the parenting/ abuse that you received, and how it affected you. There is nothing for me to add, and there is no benefit for me, or for you, that I repeat what I already expressed to you time and time again. You are welcome to go back to our communication in this thread, and in previous threads at any time, and re-read my posts to you. Otherwise, I will no longer address your childhood and your past and present relationships with your parents.

I am looking forward to your next Accountability post!

anita

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