Dear miyoid,

I am glad you found our ideas and suggestions helpful.

“If someone is understanding me, showing me empathy or showing me kindness about these deep topics, I burst into tears, I cannot help it.”

It’s probably because of a deep longing in you for care and attention, so when you feel you’ve received it to a degree, it’s both touching but also causing sadness because it takes you right back to your childhood and those memories of feeling abandoned and not cared for. Am I guessing this right?

If so, try to register this feeling of being cared for as something positive, and add it to the pool of positive experiences in the present moment, rather than allowing it to trigger sadness from that old pool of negative childhood memories. If you know what I mean (it does sound somewhat confusing).

I also think it’s great what Anita suggested to keep posting here on the forum while your boyfriend is away, to make it easier for you in the following days and weeks.

Regarding your boyfriend, you say: “But it seems like there are not any psychiatrist or psychologist good enough to help him. I don’t know what can be done, he doesn’t know as well. Being abandoned by one of the best and the most expensive psychiatrists around here, he feels helpless, I guess.”

What is his diagnosis, if I may ask? And why did his therapist quit their sessions? Did they suggest someone else?

“I’ll have to keep going by waking up everyday, running to the office, working for hours and hours, getting back home exhausted, sleep for a couple of hours and do the same thing over and over. That would be the case whether he stays or leaves.”

You seem to have a very exhausting and demanding job, which hardly gives you any free time. Is there a way to make it a little less exhausting, or could you find another job?