Dear Neverdyed,

good you’re seeing the contradiction, and also, that you actually do have the right to demand loyalty, i.e. not to stay in a relationship where loyalty isn’t honored.

Could you explain “But also notice that him suggesting infidelity was the line you didn’t want to cross.”?

Yes, I figured that this is what happened, based on these words of yours:

“Later in the msgs, he suggested me have more than 1 lover to avoid being stuck. Ever since then, I’ve tried to withdraw and move on. Although the above just made me a little sad, I’m proud that I no longer feel like crying frequently like I was.”

I had the impression that his suggestion to have multiple lovers was rather hurtful for you and what finally made you withdraw from him (or try to withdraw from him –  as you phrased it). I deduced, perhaps wrongly, that before that, you were rather reluctant to demand anything. You did once mention you don’t need on and off contacts, but he brushed it off and you haven’t brought it up again. But I thought that him suggesting other lovers was the line that you didn’t want to cross, and that’s when you started distancing yourself more and more (you said “Ever since then, I’ve tried to withdraw and move on“). Or it’s not how it happened?

• This reply was modified 3 years, 9 months ago by Tee.