Dear anita,

I really appreciate your efforts along the way, and it’s incredible that you went back to examine the whole thread, however, if you don’t mind me being honest here, I get stressed again and your latest words have affected my mood, because I feel being attacked and wronged…

a) If responding “nothing” when my mother asked aggressively is considered a fake answer, then that’s the only lie I’ve ever said in that case.

b) If possible, I’d simply show you all the chats between me and the man to prove that I’ve never tried to hide anything.

c) I left this thread before because my new job consumed too much of my energy and I said I’d reply when I felt less tired, which is basically what I want from personal relationships (a notice) and what I’ve been doing (respond even when I’m exhausted).

d) I admit that I’m rather passive aggressive and I even told him that before things got bad. If I did use his words against him, I’d express “so? I don’t like your behaviour, but do you care?” when he said “I don’t like your tone” to my “i hope this connection can continue, but I won’t accept further on and off contacts”.