Dear fg:

I told you that thoughts by themselves don’t have any power, but if you told your friend about your thoughts- you gave her the power to tell yet other people about your thoughts. If you don’t want other people to  know what your thoughts are- don’t tell anyone. (You can tell about them here, anonymously).

Regarding being aroused by lesbian porn or what not- this is not proof of a sexual orientation because people, particularly young people, teenage boys/ young men in particular, get aroused by almost anything. An apple can arouse a boy, for whatever reason. That doesn’t make him sexually oriented toward apples!

anita