Dear Oceandrive24:

You are welcome and thank you for caring to be a better parent and for accomplishing it with a lot of work. I wish more parents had this motivation and willingness to do the work.

The guy’s comments about children, “they’re mostly brats anyway”, and regarding your son, “Your son is just going through a phase like all teenagers” are more than adequate, valid reasons, to be “definitely not interested in a relationship, and step back”, and to not allow him any access to your teenage sons.

Although more reasons to step away from him are not needed, he provided them anyway, particularly, (1) closing conversations on topics that interest you while going on and on about topics that interest him, (2) judging a clumsy behavior on your part , “that was a bit silly, it’s just as well I like you”, (3) telling you what you are supposed to say to him instead of what you just said, “no, you’re supposed to say, well I like you too”, and more.

“I know I probably sound quite cruel in stepping away… sorry if that sounds harsh”- not at all cruel or harsh to step away from him, it’s the right and wise thing to do.

“we really don’t know someone until you take the time to get to know them and although they may play a part in your life, sometimes they’re not always meant to stay in it?”- I agree and he is definitely is not meant to stay in your life!

anita