Dear Gigi:

It’s a good thing that you shared about your troubling experience, better to share than to keep it bottled up inside you, like you wrote.

You met a man online in June 2020, had an online intense relationship with him, “developed a strong bond in strange ways”, but you were suspicious as to why you never met in person. December last year, there was a big fight between the two of you and you cut him off. In February 2021, he reconnected, the relationship intensified again, and you cut him off at the end of February. Yesterday, April 2, you found out that he is married.

You felt numb, and you “started obsessing about him and been sending him emails non stop. I don’t know what to do. It has gone down spiral”-

– clearly, you are very upset, very distressed, and understandably so: you got emotionally attached/ bonded with a man who deceived you by not revealing to you that he was married for the duration of the ten months he communicated with you, sometimes intimately. If I may ask, what’s in the emails you’ve been sending him and did he reply?

anita