Dear Gigi:

I understand you being angry at him- he deceived you, and he did so for a long, long time. It was wrong of him to do that. He was wrong to his wife as well and to his children, assuming he has children.

I wonder if there is something you can do, legally, to have him suffer some consequence of his wrongdoing, without causing his wife and especially his children unnecessary suffering. (If his wife finds out and suffers for it, as a suffering mother, her pain will cause her children pain).

I will be away from the computer for a while, feel free to post more and when I am back, I will reply further.

anita