Dear Joane:

In your second post you wrote that the relationship has “never .. been about sex”, but in your first, original post, you wrote: “we do message about sex as we used to have amazing sex, and we both want to do that again”-

– there is a contradiction here: on one hand you had amazing sex and he (as well as you) wants it again, and on the other hand the relationship has never been about sex.. I don’t understand. If you would like to explain what appears to me a contradiction, please do, best you can.

anita