Dear Ishita:

Welcome back, good to read back from you. My impression and understanding of you is that you have strong ethical/ moral values, a strong sense of right and wrong. You thought you knew this young man to be humble and ethical and you trusted him to be behave ethically with you. When he repeatedly flirted with you, you assumed that he was interested in a relationship with you, and that meant a lot to you.

It was a shock and a great disappointment when you found out that he is not who you thought he was: He flirted with you without the intention of having a relationship with you, he crossed the line from friendship to more and then denied that he did, or excused it. As a result you were badly hurt.

Before I go on and try to answer your questions, I need a better understanding, therefore I ask:

1) Did I understand correctly so far, in this post?

2) Will you tell me more about your beliefs in right and wrong and what part these beliefs have in your day-to-day life?

3) Will you tell me more about this young man’s behavior: has he been unethical in ways other than having flirted with you, and how ethical- or not- is his life otherwise, best you know?

anita