Dear Lindsey:

Congratulations for having a healthy, mutually supportive relationship with S!

Regarding yelling, you wrote: “I have yelled at the kids or lost my temper”- please do your best to never yell at your kids again (except for emergency situations, like you see your kid about to cross a busy street, better yell: STOP!).

“Does it seem more intimidating when a man yells? I think so”- it may be more intimidating, but a woman yelling at a kid is intimidating enough, too intimidating/ too scary and damaging, in my personal experience. So again, please do your very best to not yell at your kids, no matter what you feel.

anita