Dear Teak

thanks for your wishes

coming to your reply

– But first, let me say, I notice you didn’t want to tell him explicitly why you feel upset with him:

yes I didnt want to explicitly mention about those flirting or sexting because I , felt , he would easily shrug off owning up to it, instead he might simply say that “u were enjoying it as well , so you could have asked me to stop ”

so I rather , considered it to be better to point out things from his behavior because ,I know he isnt the kind of person who actually understands thats its not supposed to be a blame game, rather , its supposed to be him supporting me through this , taking responsibility for his part in this, to make sure we can be friends again once I am over this.

–He claims that he had too big expectations from you only once (was it when he got mad that you didn’t come on meet, btw?). And he says he didn’t feel you had too big expectations from him, except in a few occasions when he got annoyed (perhaps one being when you accused him of not letting you know that he’d be sleeping all day?).

yes you got it right Teak , these were the two instances specifically.

You again didn’t mention the real problem – his sexting, calling you bae, etc – but kept it vague. He responded by listing just one event where he sees how he possibly might have upset you, but other than that, nothing:

I wasnt sure my self if mentioning the sexting or calling bae thing is a legit point or not, since he could easily shrug it off saying, if you didnt want the flirting thing to happen you could have asked me to stop

I personally feel these things could only be mentioned to someone who is that mature , to understand how feelings for a person develope with small things over time, but he is someone who is all about himself , iguess, so mentioning these things, he ll try to make me feel guilty probably for not taking it lightly or so.

I really don’t know if you should spell out the concrete examples of his misbehavior, and explain that it’s not how one should treat their best friend unless they’re interested in them romantically

I personally think I shouldnt, it would lead no where in the matters of understanding, with a guy like that,because it was my fault that I trusted him so much, from the next time I should maybe be more careful with being that close to someone

the best is to cut contact with him, and not allow him to mislead you again

I would like to collectively answer to you and Anita on this , in my next post, since you both have dropped the same conclusion out of it