Dear Ishita:

You wrote in your recent post: “he has made attempts several times to sort this out”- he wants you to not be angry with him anymore- not by sorting out/ solving the problem, but by confusing you and making you feel that the problem is.. you.

“He appeared to be calm and listening.. while I got a bit annoyed, of how clueless could he be??”-

– he is not clueless, he has been gaslighting you. If you continue to communicate with him, you are the clueless one.

He appears like he is listening to you, like he is reasonable and mature, but it is only an appearance. He is not really listening to you. He is not really reasonable or mature. The purpose of this appearance is to present you as The Problem, the one who is Angry for no good reason, the one who is unreasonable.

“would be better for me if I definitely go no contact with him..?”- yes, go no contact and stay no contact. He is bad for you, stay away from him.

anita