hello Anita,

Good perspective. I don’t know much about his childhood, but he told me when he was younger, he took bus to school, or walk to school by himself, without his parents. His dad in fact, took care of his older sister a bit more, just because she is a girl in the family.

After he shared that he went on my ex’s social medias and checked out, and said, he will not do it anymore and only view whatever I show him from now on, instead of him stalking on my social media.

the problem about him is he doesn’t want to admit that he is insecure of anything. He got angry and cut me short the other day, when he thought I complimented him, just because so I want him to feel better about himself. He told me, don’t compare him with anyone, that’s all he asked from me, he doesn’t want me to compliment on him. But it isn’t in my intention of compare anyone.

It’s just hard to talk to him about things nowadays because he gets sensitive easily by things I say. When I want to be straightforward, he will get upset and defend himself and it triggers another argument.

but if I am not too straightforward, he will say he doesn’t appreciate that I go around the circle with what I want to say to him, or hiding or adding things to make it sounds better so he likes it.