Dear Umm,

he seems very insecure and conflicted. He says “don’t compare me to anyone”, and yet he’s wondering how your exes look like. If you’re straightforward with him, he gets upset and it leads to an argument, but if you try to be a little more diplomatic, he doesn’t like that either. It’s like nothing you do or say is good enough for him. He’ll always have a reason to complain or be upset.

It seems he’s carrying a lot of emotional baggage, and is not an easy person to be with. How does it make you feel when he gets upset and starts accusing you of “liking” your ex’s old photos? Or when you compliment him and he cuts you off?