Dear Umm:

You are welcome. The question in the title of your thread is: “is it worth?”, meaning is this relationship worth staying in. The answer to your question may be in your original post: “Very recently, we were talking about how my female friend did not treat me well, and all sudden, he brought up my ex’s photo and sent it to me. I asked him why are you digging my past again?’ he said ‘I just want to show you what a toxic person is”-

– you told him that your female friend mistreated you and his reaction was to mistreat you himself by sending you the photo of your ex, knowing that it will distress you that he is digging into your past yet again.

He told you that he wanted to show you “what a toxic person is”, meaning your ex. But what if he showed you right there and then that he is a toxic person.

anita