Dear TeaK,

Thank you once again for giving ur thoughts on my problem

You said:

“Yes, this sounds deceiving because from your reply, they might have concluded that you were busy working on that project when you weren’t. Do you see the difference between being proud of your company’s achievements (which is totally fine) and taking credit for something you haven’t done (which is deceiving)?

If you see the difference, and you also understand what motivated you to brag and deceive people sometimes (your low self-esteem), you can correct your behavior, and also forgive yourself for your past actions.”

= Now that they might have concluded that im busy working that project when i wasnt, how should i deal with this….. luckily there’s only 2 people who replied asking me that time….. Should i just let go of that mistake, and get over with that regret for deceiving them? As i cant do anything about it…… after i understand that mistake, since then i never posted anything about the development again…. and i feel calmer and no pressure….. i should’ve known this sooner and not get intrigued to show off my family’s business

You said:

“Now that covid restrictions are being lifted, you can meet new people too. Perhaps less people than being at the university, but still enough to meet a nice girl whom you like and who likes you back.”

= Here in my place the covid cases keeps increasing…. so what can i do is only do my daily activities…. in which the place i went is only my dad’s office and my home. The people in the office are all my dad employees and are all older than me, so no chance of getting a girl there. My parents also forbade me to go anywhere because the case is rising…. and yes its true….. even my friend’s here are afraid to go out and only go to places that they really have to…. I’m so stressed that i keep thinking that i could waste my time as i feel im already old (im 22)…  but this situation force me this way. Tbh even without the cases i also think it’s hard for me to meet new people…. as i’m an introvert and i enjoy at home… and i only go out on weekend with my friends (my friend who i’ve known for a long time since school days), but i keep pressuring myself that if i dont make a move i wont get myself a girl…. and also to make me move on from that girl…..

I even thought maybe i should go to uni again, maybe i can meet girls again. But i dont know when covid will end…. as if i go to uni now, it’ll be pointless as it’ll only be an online class and not meeting people for real. But also if i go to uni again…. i’d be wasting my parents money again….. and sometimes i also think it’s so annoying that i have to do assignments again…. I’m so confused now.

You said:

“Yes, it would be a wrong choice because you’d glue yourself to her, and she’s already told you she moved on, and there’s very little chance that you’d end up together. So it would just be suffering for you. Instead, you can use your time to work on yourself and open yourself to a possibility for true love. But first, work on developing more self-love and self-esteem, because that’s how you’ll be able to meet a girl who truly appreciates you for who you are.”

= Tbh i look at a girl based on her physical appearance and also she must connect with my personality…. just like the girl who i cant move on… i really like her physical appearance and i think our personality matches that’s why it’s so hard to move on from her….. and everytime i try to find girls on social media i just dont feel most of their physical appearance suits my interest (most of it are pretty in my friends eyes, but i dont seem to have interest in those most girls)….. also due to my height i prefer girls who are shorter…. and there isnt much…. and also im an introvert so i dont like girls who stands out, and also i dont like if girls crave for attention with most guys….. i prefer the calm and innocent type (idk if u get what i mean). But sometimes due to the innocent type, most of those girls are focusing on their studies and not caring about relationships and boys….. whereas the girls who wants relationships are girls who stands out. Do u think im too picky?