Anita,

You are very welcome. I love your honest thoughts and how insightful they are, I imagine people who know you personally really enjoy your company!

If mutual total honesty is one day shared in my relationship.. You are right bamboozled is exactly how I might feel! At the beginning of this one, I thought that’s what was happening, we shared a lot with each other!  But of course there’s always more than meets the eye, right?

It’s definitely true that we don’t want to share one another with anyone else, and not wanting one woman having too much power over him may also be true or at least something like that. Between growing up as an only child with a single mother and past dating experiences I’ve heard from him I’d say it’s the other women that he’s dealt with that might cause him to think that way. I have seen first hand when we went on vacation, how close and influential his mother is to him and not in a negative way I totally love her and she adores me too. From the very beginning he has always said his mother is the most important woman in his life, and now that I’ve come to be right up there with her but of course she is the mom so she has to continue to carry that title and I support it because I feel the same way about my mom. You made a good point with this one for sure. With other girls, he has told me he had been cheated on in both serious relationships he was in at one point, so the guard he created was tough for a long time until he met me. I think a part of his dishonesty could be from potential insecurity/ fear of being hurt, essentially just like me, except in my case I more so think it’s easier to not deal with issues when faced with them, just accept the circumstances and find a sliver lining.

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