Hi Anita! What you say about ‘at most a friendship is possible’ helped me with some closure so thank you for that. Thank you also for helping me clear up my uncertainty on her comments.

I met up with her today and I have now ended the friendship. It was the right decision for me. Before 2 months ago, when we were good friends,  we decided that we, along with a couple of friends would go on holiday. When I ended it two months ago I wasn’t sure whether I wanted to go on holiday with her and she said she would ask me early July time whether I would like to go. Yesterday she told me that she’d found someone else and gone ahead and booked it anyway. This was quite hurtful to me and I felt angry and upset. I feel I don’t really have the time or energy to deal with someone like this. It’s just not worth it. She says that she just assumed that we weren’t friends anymore despite not being clear with me about it at all. She made this assumption because in the past she didn’t stay friends with others where either she or someone else developed feelings for the other. Everyone’s different with how they think and feel about these kind of things and I don’t understand how she can make this assumption. It seems inexcusable.

I will eventually forgive her in my heart but today, and probably the near future, is not the time.