Dear sossi:

You are welcome.

“I go along with everything until I get completely fed up”- in between going along with the first or second thing and going along with everything- STOP and assert yourself.

“They don’t expect a reaction but then they get one and its unexpected so they react badly?”- get them to expect a reaction from you on a regular basis, for as long as a reaction is called for.

“she turns Jekyll and Hyde and seems to bully me at any opportunity she gets in front of others or clients”- react gently but clearly.

“My solution was to leave my former role and become a sales person which means I don’t need to be in the office as much”- good solution, “but at our meetings she picks on random things that are in my control”- react clearly and professionally. You can prepare various reactions to possible acts for the next meeting.

“I’ve always used humor to deal with the difficulties and because that always worked”- keep using it then!

“I like to escape sometimes into fantasy in that way, coming up with sketches, in different artistic ways. I make up song lyrics, come up with satires and comic ideas in my head”- that’s wonderful, keep doing that.

“My ex boyfriend seemed to hate my comedic side and usually told me to stop acting crazy”- can you give me a specific example of you having expressed your comedic side which he referred to as “crazy” (I am curious)?

anita