Dear sossi:

“My problems are not created by my environment I think, but more to do with human nature, relationships and some abuse I’ve suffered. I think that probably it was made worse because I don’t know how to stand up for myself..  Friends say ‘forget this and that’ and I can´t. I’m irritated by bad behaviours in personal and business behaviours”-

– You are unsatisfied with “human nature”. Because (1) human nature is the same everywhere in the world, (2) you own a home where you live, something that you are satisfied with!, (3) you like some other aspects of the place, like Nature, distinguished from human nature, (4) you “can´t say (you) feel strongly enough about moving somewhere else”- I can see why you want to stay where you live.

Because the only human nature that is possible for you to change to some extent is your own: (1) learn and practice standing up for yourself and protecting yourself from abuse, (2) have no contact or minimal contact with certain people, and be selective as to what kinds of interactions you choose to have with various people: strictly professional with one,  friendly but superficial (no intimate conversations) with another,  friendly and deeper in this or that area with yet another, etc., (3) there is a way to train the mind, once irritated, to calm down quicker than before, it is referred to as returning to base line. Some people get irritated and remain irritated for a long, long time. Other people get irritated and soon after, they are no longer irritated. You can train your brain to make it possible for you to belong to the second group of people.

anita