Dear Anita

I am feeling a bit overwhelmed with all the new things and advice on pregnancy and labour I am hearing and learning at the moment.

On top of it the recent situation with my mother, is making me feel so inadequate as my own capacity as a mother. I am trying to be in present moment as possible. I have a holiday coming up in next week and perhaps that will make a difference. Otherwise its a groundhog day off late.

You wrote ” Parents mirror reality to the young child this way, so it’s important for parents to contain their anxiety, particularly in situations that don’t warrant it.”

Absolutely agree. I recently read this book on parenting by Phillipa Perry : “The book which you wish your parents had read”.

Sometimes, I amuse myself- I am reading manuals on bringing up children. Should this be a natural thing? ( I know it’s not…but I struggle without a proper template) If someone asked me at 18 what I wanted to atudy/profession to pursue I had a clearer answer. But with motherhood, I struggle. I think I was doing ok…but the incident with my mother is pulling me down.

I know I feel anxious around the people I love..making sure they are absolutely alright. I don’t know any better at times. But for the past year, I am much better with my typical responses to such situations. I hope to make continued progress in this area.

Many thanks

Namaste87