Dear Peace:

I very much like the quote you provided of Prophet Muhammad: “All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a white has no superiority over black nor a black has any superiority over white except by piety and good action.”

Introduction to Islam. org, reads that before Prophet Muhammad said the words quoted above, he said: “O People, listen well to my words, for I do not know whether, after this year, I shall ever be amongst you again. Therefore listen to what I am saying to you very carefully and TAKE THESE WORDS TO THOSE WHO COULD NOT BE PRESENT HERE TODAY”- so, you did, Peace, you brought his words to your thread for me and others to read, thank you.

“Why are we so discriminate against people who are from other race/ culture?”- one simple answer is that people want to think highly about themselves and the easiest way to accomplish that for many (short term) is to think lowly about others.

“I’m referring to a Society ,where having some good character doesn’t really matter. One needs to be handsome, from same caste, and have some money…nothing else matter”- for person X to detect and appreciate a strong, good character in person Y, person X herself needs to have a strong, good character. But when person X has a weak character, she is not able to detect or appreciate a good character in other people. Instead, she values and appreciates superficial things like looks, and things that don’t require a character, such as what a person is born into (caste, money).

“What will be the best way to go for a marriage in that case with least Drama..??”-

– Adhere to what you value: a strong, good character. Live your life according to your values, not according to your sister’s values. When you talk to your sister, repeat to her what you value, and agree to disagree with her, saying something like: that is what you believe, this  is what I believe, and that’s all there is to it. Don’t argue with her, keep a respectful tone, but live your life according to your values. Don’t submit to how she/ others like her want you to live your life.

anita