Anita,

Yesterday after work I went up to the softball fields to watch my daughter. Because of scheduling conflicts (I was working until 6 and my ex husband was at a meeting for travel baseball for my son) I was not able to take her to the field or take my son to football camp. Apparently his girlfriend “A” took them.  I think she does the majority of driving for the kids.   I was supposed to pick my son up at 7 from football camp and take him to the softball game.  When my ex texted me at 7 (he was driving to the game) I asked him to pick up my son on his way to the softball field so I could watch my daughter bat.  He comes up to the game (he’s also her coach-he coaches at least 3 teams right now) he had not picked up my son. I went up to the dug out and asked him why. He was rude and said I needed to go pointing to a high school about 4 football fields away. I asked him where exactly it was.  he never told me at any point where exactly campe was.  he was rude so I said no. Apparently his girlfriend had walked to get my son. My ex made a minor scene in the dug out in front of kids-they were staring at him-and said I needed to thank “A.” He was also walking to the 2nd game for my daughter at another field and walked beside me saying a comment while I was walking with our daughter.  I told him to stop. he was walking with the softball assistant coach and proceeded to tell her what happened.  He also said I needed to thank “A.”

Before the 2nd game started  I went over to “A” and said thanks. She responded in a very angry manner “that’s your job” I said wow-my ex comes over with the kids stuff and said “I don’t know what to tell you” I took the bags said “I feel sorry for you guys” and as I was walking away she yelled “I feel sorry for your kids”

I left the game. I felt very embarrassed because other parents heard. I do not want to be a part of divorced “scenes” in public.

I’m very concerned with my well being and with these situations that seem to escalate. About 3 weeks ago at my son’s baseball game the girlfriend “A” walked past me very close almost bumping into my shoulder obviously on purpose.

I do not want to be involved in these things and do not know how to prceed.  For both of them this topic of I don’t care about the kids sports and don’t come to the games is a theme. (I go to most of the game) This is one of their attacks.  Most people would say ignore it it’s just divorce common arguments but Anita I don’t feel this is common.  I want to consult an attorney but I don’t know that they can provide any help.

I feel 1. I should have just walked over to the fields to get my son.  2. I should not have gone over and thanked “A” like my ex suggested.  Please help

Lindsey