Dear Anita,

thank you for your thoughts on this.

Yes, thats sounds very much on point, while i read your answer i actually started to cry.

irregardless, that doesnt excuse me to going along with being in contact him, i hope a lot it is my learning process (first family, then him) to actually realize these situations (but not just pure victim but also taking responsibility) , to have finally enough energy to stop it and to move on towards something better/bettering myself.