Dear natie:

Good to read back from you, but not good to read that you are not doing so well.

“I saw him face to face several times he said some ugly words about the fact that he doubts any guy would want to be with me“- his ugly words make him ugly. (His ugly words do not make you ugly!)

“I asked him to continue doing our long distance relationship like any other couple but he said that this is not love..“- it is his right to reject your offer of a LDR.

“We ended up apologizing , decided to break it off and stay friends, he went back to the States and I stayed at my hometown“- so the relationship ended, it is now part of your past, and his past.

“he started texting.. but now I stopped responding and its been complete silence for the last 4 days“- it is supposed to be silent if the relationship ended.. but it did not really end.

“I feel guilty because I agreed to stay friends and see where the future might take us both“- this doesn’t sound like a break up, and.. why be friends with a person who says ugly words to you and who guilt trips you?

“I’m also always thinking of him if he is doing ok“- in your mind and heart, a breakup did not happen yet, that’s why you keep thinking about him

“I have the confusion of whether this break up was right“- like I suggested above, I don’t think you broke up with him yet.

“Now the single life looks scary as the dating seen completely sucks, as I have been hearing from friends and family when it comes to their experiences”- your personal experience with dating can be way better than your friends’ and family’s, if you do it right. (I have dating advice if you are interested).

Post again anytime, if and when you feel like it, dearest natie, and I will be glad to reply further.

anita